Couples Counselling Kelowna & BC
Couples Counselling
Being in a successful relationship takes commitment
A strong relationship isn’t something that you automatically have – it’s something that you build. It takes work and commitment to understand each other and to have a great relationship. We have individual histories, past traumas, differing love languages and ways of attaching, and unique emotional needs. Learning how to meet each other’s needs can be a challenge, and many of us did not have healthy relationships modelled for us.
Many couples turn to band-aid fixes to try and solve their problems
You know something in your relationship has to change. You have tried spicing things up, going on dates, having more scheduled sex, and reading marriage books together. These efforts only provide temporary relief and the relationship you once looked to for support and joy is now making you feel lonely and sad. You feel like it spirals from a discussion to a fight so quickly, or maybe the opposite, your conflicts lead to withdrawal from each other, and nothing gets resolved. And every time these interactions happen you begin to feel more alone and hurt.
Restore the connection
To restore that connection and break out of negative cycles, you will likely need the help of a professional through couples counselling. On your own, you and your partner may be too close to the problem to see it from an unbiased perspective. You may even tell yourselves, “If he would listen more” or “If she would just trust me”, without realizing that the issues run deeper than that.
Couples counselling is not intended just for those who are contemplating divorce. On the contrary, it is a healthy way to ensure your relationship stays strong over the years. Rather than pushing through the difficult times, learn how to truly connect with your partner and you will have the skills and tools needed for a long happy relationship together. I truly believe that when both of you learn to connect with each other on a deeper level, positive change happens!
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
The primary method I use for couples therapy is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). It is a well-researched and proven method to help couples heal their relationship and grow.
Beyond the therapy sessions, EFT equips you and your partner with essential skills to maintain a healthy relationship. You’ll learn how to effectively express your needs, listen to each other without judgment, and respond in ways that nurture love and trust. These tools are invaluable for maintaining intimacy, improving communication, and navigating any future difficulties that arise.
EFT is a powerful approach that can transform your relationship, helping you build a deeper connection, improve communication, and heal emotional wounds.
Emotionally Focused Therapy offers a proven path to healing and closeness. If you would like to see if we are a good fit, please book an appointment.